Monday, April 16, 2007

Is DaMoon ready to tie da knot?

Ok, I guess it doesn’t get more official than this?! I mean eventhough I don’t have a ring on my finger; but it is official, right? Well whatever, it’s all naseeb…but com’on I have a date for da wedding? Da hall is booked! And da entire family is planning to be here on Aug 4th!!!!! Ok I am kinda freaking out; I mean am I really ready to get married? Am I mature enough for that? Am I ladylike enough? Wallahi I have 101 questions in my head but no answers....my cousin keeps asking me “are you ready” I say “inshallah”…lol and ready means mentally! I believe I am more than ready to be da lady of my house taking care of my husband and whatever comes with the responsibility! But the part I am struggling with is becoming a mature wife than a fun girl! That’s what freaking me out…….girls at work ask me whether I started buying stuff “btat” like you know, girlz need new wardrobe and crap like that! The answer is NO I didn’t’, simply because I can’t change da way my brain works “still” I am still looking at casual cloths…last week I bought Nike sweat pants!! And over da weekend I was looking for running shoes!! OK! Da beautiful part, my fiancée is more like me! Very casual person, doesn’t like da fancy shmancy stuff…so anywayz! Inshallah rabe ester and I don’t freak out more.
Preparation wise; my main issue now is getting the wedding gown out of da way! I only been to two stores here in Tripoli and I freaked out! Too many choices mainly not my style and way too poofed for me! I mean they say it’s a wedding dress has to be poofed! but poofed and ugly.. dunno not my cup of tea! So, now I am thinking of custom making it, there are few places here that master khyata for wedding gowns, so inshallah, so that’s my next stop! After that; we’ll be working on da decoration of da hall, food “maysoon and mom” already after that. Also, maysoon has gazillion ideas of what to do next, and half da time I am not listening because I am dead tired from work…I just wanna go home and sleep…so taking a week of might be a good idea after all… guyz and gurlz include me in ur prayers and inshallah da whole thing etsahel and I don’t end up a bridzilla!!!!

43 comments:

Anglo-Libyan said...

Damoon, it is only nerves speaking now.
you are not on your own, your family are there to do most things for you, that is how it is in Libya, the bride and groom are king & queen, so relax and remember you are the queen :o)

inshaAllah all will go well and according to plan, mayt Allah bless you & your future husband and give you good health, long life and lovely children.

one more thing: you have to master the art of sitting down for hours without talking, drinking or eating with just a small smile on your face, this is called 3aroosa (Bride) good luck :o)

DaMoon said...

Thanks AngloLibyan wallahi I don't wanna do anything or no7rog dammi 3li anything! and for da art of sitting down for hours...lol I ain't good at that! and u r right I should start practicing hehe, but again thanks and 3ogbal matafra7 bewladik ya rabb

Anonymous said...

Salams Damoon,
Inshallah all goes well for you ya rab!
All those questions you have are so normal..i'm sure you are ready,you will be fine..and i laughed so hard at the "bridezilla" part..am sure you will be the perfect bride..and rabi etamem 3ala khair ya rab...you can do it habibty(L)..

Happymoi

a_akak said...
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a_akak said...

I doubt anyone ones or can tell you whether you are ready or not? i mean the beauty of these things is that you learn together and experience this journey together and i believe no one will ever know if they are ready of not, although guys get a bit more scared than girls

(dont take this the wrong way, but my uncle once told me "Ahmed", the bride wears white coz she is happy and white shows that she is opening a new page but the groom wears balck coz he is scared and this day is the full stop in his 3zab life and he has closed the better chapter of his life BTW this was on the day of his wedding)

anyway, i am certain you will enjoy this jouraney as it seems you have found a compatible guy who complements you and that you both complete each other :), But there is one thing i dont understand "Why does someone pay sooooooooooo much money for a wedding dress that you will only wear once? i mean to hire it costs over 1500 a night, (& they say why libyan guys dont get married)

fianlly, i wish you a very very happy future and may everyday be blessed by allah

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person"

Fe Aman Allah

mani said...

salam Damoon

Inshallah rabbe yfar7ek and itll all go great and ull get your ring, your dress and your man before you know it :D.

Wow is this how it feels like getting married in Libya???.. Ya allah I cant take these nerves..

Im sure your in safe hands by your mum, maysoon and your fiancess.. between them, you probably could go to sleep, although of course that'l be impossible..

um.. u having henna? :D

salam

DaMoon said...

habibti happymoi; thank u soo much and I know I don't want to turn to a bridezilla :s o inte good luck with ur examz bash tji torgsi fe 3rsi hehehe and 3o2balik ya rabb

Ahmed; ur uncle probably right..lol so I am going to suggest that my man wears white tux..lol and white shoes :p but ya wallahi wat u said is so true it's about both husband and wife learning together...inshallah rabna etai7ik fe bnt el7lal elli tstahlik ya rabb....and oh regarding wedding dress..lol dunno it's once a life time thing "inshallah" so it's worth every penny hehehe, but seriously msareef el3rs halba fa rabe ekoon fe el3oon

mani; I smell something in da air, and yes u'll be going thru da same nervbreak downs, so be prepared :p o rabe ehaneek
regarding Henna, nope I am not a henna fan nor my fiancee "alhamduliallah"

Ala said...

Damoonitna ?

Alf mabrook, inshallah kol shai yimshi tamam

I read all comments, and agree with everything that has been said; Anglo saying “ you are not on your own, your family will .. ” is sooo true ,
And Happy adding “ i'm sure you are ready, you will be fine ” , also true
And Ahmed saying “ guys get a bit more scared than girls ” , I agree with him
Also with mani “ Im sure your in safe hands by your mum and maysoon ”

hey Damoon?
Nerves or no nerves, ring or no ring,… all these little extras are just extras … cosmetics & decorations ..
The big thing from all this is the man, and your man seems to be the perfect guy to be honest

I read many if not all what you wrote, and I really do think you got the perfect guy … you know the secret of a successful relationship?
In my opinion: Chemistry
I have seen you joke, laugh, discuss, and more
recently I discovered you have a great sister among us here

I don’t think you can stop the nerves, or the waiting ..

Best thing: enjoy every minute

Hope to hear more about the next steps for the big day … ( and hey? have you forgotten? – I haven’t – you said “ you think the honeymoon is more exciting than the wedding ” … well …. Forget the wedding then … concentrate on the honeymoon )

See you soon,
You are one of us, and what makes you happy, makes me happy as well

1 million best wishes from both; cofman and coftana

Anonymous said...

Mabrooooooooook

and don't worry about the girly stuff, i think being funny is better than anything else and it seems your fiance is the same :P so take it easy and don't freak out.

salaam

Dinooo said...

Hey ya 3aroosa,

So.. Augst 4th is the big day eh!
A combination of nervousness and happiness at the same time… normal thing for a 3aroosa I guess! I know I haven't experienced that but it’s a fact which I always hear…

Well,
"am I really ready to get married?"… yes u r
"am i mature enough for that?" …yes u r
"am I a ladylike enough?"… BIG NO! .. (u know its true, just like me.. but am sure u'll adapt and be one lol)

Sweety, no worries, u got a great mother and sister to help u with everything before the wedding and a great man to take care of u after the wedding,, both ways ur in safe hands; other than that mashallah 3alaiki I can c u responsible for everything inshallah and being the mature wife and the fun girl at the same time ;)

I always wanted to be there during the preparation but Allah 3'aleb! Wishing u all the best luck and happiness coz u deserve more… Allah 2ehaneekom ya rab and don't forget to enjoy every single min to the fullest.

P.S. Pass on my best wishes and congrats to the 3arees ;)

Anonymous said...

Sweet sister, reeeelaaaax
You'll look gorgeous I'm sure of it..and you'll be just fine.
Who said you need to change your casual style after getting married?
Just get a few formal things for occasions here and there...and that'll do.
Take it easy, we're all with you and things will be just fine.
Although I gotta adimt I enjoyed reading your entry and feeling your nervousness..hehehehe vicious..lol I found it pretty cute ;0)
Enjoy the wedding preparations and have fun...lots of fun.

Love
Best wishes

-Dodo

DaMoon said...

Cofman; I just love ur creativity when it comes to names "Damoonitina" this is a new one :p hehe, and thanks for da support and u r so right everything else is extra, so yes I should concentrate on my fiancee and da honeymoon...eehaa..lol inshallah ya rabb, I am ok if we skip da wedding to be in da honeymoon.....NOT I want both hehehe
and thanks to Cofman and Coftana "I hope it's ur wife not ur girlfriend" hehe just kidding
H; Allah ebarik feek, shokran dunno if u a r a he or a she but thanks halba

Dodooooooooooo; did u get ur ticket yet? when r u coming exacly? yallah u better come a bit early to feel share da stress with ur mama and Maysoon, as u know I am a confusion ball, I get confused at everything and anything and I need ur brains to sort it out hehehe...so yallah t3ali and of course 3o2balik ya rabb although I know it's da last thing in ur list now :p

DaMoon said...

oh oh nsetek ya da3wa dindin..lol wallahi I am losing it! thanks for ur honesty "am I ladylike enough"? NO..lol big NO dunno if I'll ever be! but this is me....inte kaman get here ASAP
thanks habibti and 3o2bal manifra7 beek ya rabb

StarLit said...

WOOw, this is the best news i heard today!!!

Mabruk, and inshallah everything will be just as you wish them to be! and if you need any any any help, you know where to find me ;) just give me call!!!

Alf alf mabruk, just relax and enjoy every mint cuz you'll be laughing about it after the wedding..lol

Lebeeya said...

Awwwww that is so sweet mabrooook! Allah ytammemlik 3ala khair.. he's
such a lucky lucky man!

I would tell you to relax but I am not cuz I would be so nervous myself so dont relax and enjoy the nervousness cuz it wont last long! :P

Bridzilla? NEVER! But I know what you mean.. jiggle jiggle... MAKE IT STOP!

Anonymous said...

mabrooooooooooooook ya bint, raby ehaneek in shaa allah .

it's gets freaky and wierd when it becomes real lol
but i guess u can pull it together in shaa allah. and as anglo said act 3aroosa just limit the @LOLS@ so they dont think ur bananans or something :P just kdn

and may allah bless you and your little family to-be
good luck

MaySoon said...

LOL so I was wondering when you were going to blog about it!!

Emmm I dunno, have I changed the way I dress? NO so it's like adding little things here and there :o).. as Dodo said.. you need couple of formal things for occasions and that is about it..

Every thing is going alright and your only concern now should be finding the wedding dress,

To your question "am I mature enough?"...lol

Just concentrate on one thing, that you're going to be with the person you love :o) every things else is going to go well "insha'Allah"!

Dinooo said...

Ya shefsha lol "oh oh nsetek ya da3wa dindin"... if that's the case before the wedding i wonder how it'd be like after!!!!

a_akak said...

A few words of wisdom :)

"Marriage halves our griefs, doubles our joys, and quadruples our expenses."

"A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short"

"The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret"

"Love requires a willingness to die; marriage, a willingness to live"

Fe Aman Allah

Lost-Libyan said...

bahi bahi now...this yestahel big MAZULTOF o enshalah ytamem bel7'er....well, dont worry u would never change just coz ur married...Take my sisters for example...u cant tell the difference between BEFORE and AFTER...they still wear jeans and go to work....No 7enna no extra makeup!!....so it all depends on who u r on the inside...and trust me .... Damoon is here to stay...u rock..and mabrook...shoot..... weddings in Libya r segregated...pitty, I cant be there ( msa7 walah wejhi ne3zem fe ro7i) lol
:) ....dont worry evertyhing is gonna be more than perfect, all u have to di is just pose and smile.

ciao

Anonymous said...

Damoon Sweety u know me as i said before it is a HUGE step hehe but you are adaha o edod. hehe ;)

the naked guy wants to come, who r u dude??

DaMoon said...

Ayoosh, thanks haboba...lol inshallah but u know how crazy my fiancee is so rabna ester hehe..lol
and stop gasgsing about da naked dude :p

DaMoon said...

Mainua; thanks habibti and 3ogbal manafr7o beek ya rabb and trust me I will need ur help..lol so be prepared with da white karkoba of urs hehe

Lebeeya; sweetheart wallahi I loved chatting with u today and don’t ever do that again! “disappear” on us hiki men gher i7im wala tastoor…laken rabe e3awen with work…and I just love da fact that u r going to shop for me!!!!! But no again haboba couple of things r acceptable more than that I WILL PAY FOR IT xxx

Emmmaaa, weenik ya 7elwa 7atta inte, wallahi I need to practice to limit da LOLs..lol cuz u know I don’t wanna be called 3rosa khfifa hehe, and 3ogbalik inte Kaman ya rabb

Maysoon; for some reason I never consider u married…lol I mean it’s true u have a girl and all, but don’t give that impression, shaklik zay bnaiet eljami3a…lol I bet bnaweet ejami3a emakijo akter menek hehehe; but thanks

Dindin; wallahi mesh 3arfa 7atta ane!..lol rabna ustur

Ahmed; I like da secret of a happy marriage remains a secret...lol falsafa

Lost-Libyan; thanks bro, I’ll probably be like ur sistas and hey whoever is going to be in Tripoli during that time IS invited, this is an official invitation..lol so, u can hook it up with my brothers o t3awel m3ahum…lol khali n7rtu 3leek shwiya o na7o edla3 elli inta ga3id feeh :p
Thanks and 3ogbalik…..and NO 7enna for me, NO NO NO..lol

a_akak said...

i have some other ones that are for the groom but i dont think you will like them lol

Lost-Libyan said...

lol...msara3 3raftene o bet7erto 3leya.....lol...ani aslan 7ata fe 3rasna dema ngolhom e3tebroni def...:) bs for u ya Damoon wala yhemik!

DaMoon said...

Ahmed; 3adi 3adi..lol 7atta kana ma3jboneesh just post them..lol

Lost-Libyan; hikki etrees wala blash..lol ma3ndnash rejala s7aneen, albis hadika elhurka o jeeb elbotte o t3ala...:p jk I am just having one day and manbeesh 7ad et3ib, but thanks

Lost-Libyan said...

lol...Damoon klam el lil madhoon bel zebda....when the moment of truth comes...ciao wala man3ref ommi!
ba3den eh el alfaz el be2a de....hurka o mesh 3aref eh ya3...lol
:)

Lost-Libyan said...

Ayish...I think the naked guy has a name!!!
ba3den 3lash el gasgsa asasan!?
:)

Anonymous said...

"bash tji torgsi fe 3rsi hehehe"

kana ta3bi 3alaya fe alrages emshet 7afltek!

I dont know how to dance, not at all! So ma3leshi hire "ANOTHER fifi abdu" LOOOOOOOOOOL,i'm so not the right one,thats if you want to save your party!!

Thanks for the well wishes..I'm getting some work done hehe!

Happymoi

Ala said...

Lost Libyan;

“ ba3den 3lash el gasgsa asasan!? ” Good Question Lost L

I want to leave you LL on your own, I am sure you can manage easily

Do a lot of practice on them – better than school,

See you later after you give them a good lesson

DaMoon said...

Lost-Libyan; la wallahi 3zoma 7uganniya mesh zibda o 3sal...and ash7it dgnik kherlik rahu..lol

Happymoi; let's start belly dancing classes for u, men hni le Aug u'll be a pro..lol just come over for an hour everyday ;o) hehehe and no i don't want fifi 3abda...lol

Cofman; stop with the ebari...lol

Lost-Libyan said...

lol....leave him alone Damoon...yma7esh feya and i do respond! ani 7'fef lol....!
:)

mani said...

Salam Damoon,

Mabrouk on the thumbnail pic

lol

DaMoon said...

yma7esh feya <---me don't understand!!! be ama logha hadi?....lol urzn drt el3ar jk

mani; awsalam, Allah ebarik feek, wallahi hadi maysoon darthali and she started adding my Fav blogs then had to go home...lol she'll finish it off tomorrow "man, I am so clueless"

Ala said...

lol @ Lost l

& lol @ Damoon

what a bunch LOLOLOL

Anonymous said...

Elef Mabrouk!

Lost-Libyan said...

lol....walah wa7'ed ra7ti nder manebe o nesma3 mankrah...nobody know who I am..!! :)
belahi tawa enti Damoon 7ata swor wared 3lash!?! plus flowers r so cliche!

MaySoon said...

lol Lost Libyan & DaMoon you guys are like Tom & Jerry, ngir o ngeer!

DaMoon said...

te 3adi 3adi..lol maysoon thanks for changing da pic! I still want to learn how u did it hehehe..lol and yes that is my statue of confidence pose hehehe

Lost-Libyan said...

ehh...zede wari fla7tek kana yshofa ur fiance....7e 3lek....I would go with the cliche flowers!
:) jk

Lost-Libyan said...

woooook....I have a tough exam in 2 hours...im really freaked out.....wish me luck ppl!!
Damoon wish me luck honest luck....and leave our differences aside during these couple of hours...I need all the positive enrgy right now!
lol :)

DaMoon said...

GOOD LUCK BROTHER LOST LIBYAN with all my heart..lol I am leaving all da differences aside, inshallah benaja7 ya rabb

and regarding da pic DON'T MAKE ME START..lol oh sorry differences aside, ba3deen tawa ngolik

Anonymous said...

mafeesh fayda ya damoon...
you see my cousins tried to help me...but i'm a hopless case!!

mat3beesh ro7ek 3alya!!
Happymoi